I came across a funny motherhood quote on Instagram a few months ago that stuck with me. I don’t know who the author is, and I can’t remember what profile it was on, but it spoke to me. It said…
“Good moms let you lick the beaters…great moms turn them off first.”
Immediately I thought of the special moments I shared with my mom in the kitchen. She would make the most delicious cakes and share the batter with me just before placing it in the oven (thanks for turning them off first, mom). She clearly was—and continues to be—an exceptional mother.
The quote also made me reflect on my own parenting style. I’m not quite a year in, but ideally, I want to be a great mom for Stephen (SJ). Not just a woman in his life who took care of him, but someone he learned from, and saw as an example of how to properly navigate this crazy world.
Parenting is hard, y’all. It’s exhausting. It’s demanding and thankless. But, one thing I’ve learned in the few months of being a mother is that I didn’t loose myself in becoming a mother; I found myself. Sure I don’t spend as much time going to parties and hanging with friends (apologies if you’re someone I’ve been trying to schedule drinks with. Sorry!), but that was the old me. Now I find joy in taking care of him, and surprisingly when I shop at stores like Target I go directly to the baby section to find a cute new set for him.
Motherhood has changed me for the better and if 20 years from now SJ thinks of me as an okay mom, that’s fine, too. Because I know that I was always willing and ready to turn the beater off for him before he dived head first into the batter.
This post is sponsored by Target, although all opinions are my own.